A Real Man Sticks With One Woman
I remember some years ago watching Phyllis George interview Dallas Cowboys quarterback Roger Staubach. It was a dull interview until Phyllis asked, "Roger, how do you feel when you compare yourself with Joe Namath, who is so sexually active and has a different woman on his arm every time we see him?" "Phyllis," Roger answered, "I'm sure I'm just as sexually active as Joe. The difference is that all of mine is with one woman."
Touchdown! Roger hit the end zone with that comeback. Real men don't commit adultery. A real man sticks with one woman. Period.
The Alibi Agency
"Our aim is total peace of mind for you and your family." That is the motto of the Alibi Agency, a start-up company whose purpose is to provide an insulating layer of verisimilitude between philanderers and their spouses. Based in Blackpool, England, the Alibi Agency establishes a plausible paper trail. It will furnish ticket stubs for the theater performance you were supposed to have been attending. It will print up dummy invitations to the social and business events that kept you away from home. It will hire official sounding receptionists who will intercept phone calls to the putative locale of your out-of-town conference or golf game.
We can discuss individual requirements," the Alibi Agency's literature says, "and 'Tailor Make' an Alibi to your Specifications."
Percentage Of Extramarital Affairs
Percentage of men who will have an extramarital affair in their lifetime: 21.2 Percentage of women who will have an extramarital affair in their lifetime: 11.3
What You Have In Store After Adultery
The following is an incomplete list of what you have in store after your immorality is found out. Your mate will experience the anguish of betrayal, shame, rejection, heartache, and loneliness. No amount of repentance will soften those blows.
Your mate can never again say that you are a model of fidelity. Suspicion will rob her or him of trust.
Your escapade(s) will introduce to your life and your mate's life the very real probability of a sexually transmitted disease.
The total devastation your sinful actions will bring to your children is immeasurable. Their growth, innocence, trust, and healthy outlook on life will be severely and permanently damaged.
The heartache you will cause your parents, your family, and your peers is indescribable.
The embarrassment of facing other Christians, who once appreciated you, respected you, and trusted you, will be overwhelming.
If you are engaged in the Lord's work, you will suffer immediate loss of your job and the support of those with whom you worked. The dark shadow will accompany you everywhere and forever. Forgiveness won't erase it.
Your fall will give others license to do the same.
The inner peace you enjoyed will be gone.
You will never be able to erase the fall from your (or others') mind. This will remain indelibly etched on your life's record, regardless of your later return to your senses.
The name of Jesus Christ, whom you once honored, will be tarnished, giving the enemies of the faith further reason to sneer and jeer.
The Tale Of The Tardy Oxcart
Charles R. Swindoll, Word, pp. 19-20.
God Is Serious About Adultery
And in case you need a reminder that God is serious about fidelity, I ask you to consider this true story. It could save you from some tragedy that could be just around the corner. The names are fictitious, but the story is true. Clara and Chester's twenty-eight-year-old marriage was a good one. Not the most idyllic, but good. By now they had three grown children who loved them dearly. They were also blessed with sufficient financial security to allow them room to dream about a retirement home, so they began looking for one. A widower we'll call Sam was selling his place. They liked it a lot and they returned home to talk and to make their plans. Months passed.
Last fall Clara told Chester she wanted a divorce. He went numb. After all these years, why? How could she deceive him? How could she have been nursing such a scheme while they were looking at a retirement home? She said she hadn't been doing it for that long. Actually, this was a recent decision now that she had found another man. Who? Clara admitted it was Sam, the owner of the house they were considering. She had inadvertently run into him several weeks after they had discussed the sale. They had a cup of coffee together; later the next week they went out to dinner. For several weeks they had been seeing each other privately and were now sexually involved. Since they were now "in love," there was not turning back. Not even the kids, who hated the idea, could dissuade their mother.
On the day Clara was to leave, Chester walked through the kitchen toward the garage. Realizing Clara would be gone when he returned, he hesitated, "Well, hon, I guess this the last time" and his voice dissolved as he broke into sobs. She felt awkward, so she hurriedly got her things together, backed out of the driveway, and never looked back. She drove north to meet Sam. Less than two weeks after she moved in with her new lover, Sam was seized with a heart attack and lingered a few hours. The following morning Sam died.
When it comes to morality, God is as serious as a heart attack. I have said for years that if God moved that swiftly in every case, most folks I know would think again before they started an affair. If God moved now like He did in the days of Ananias and Sapphira, there would be less adultery.
The Tale Of The Tardy Oxcart
Charles R. Swindoll, Word, pp. 18-19.